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“I’m Not Good At That”

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I Can Do It“I’m Not Good At That”

How many times have you said this, or have heard someone else say this statement?

It’s really easy to say, and it’s very easy to disqualify something that you may want to do or try because “you’re not good at” it or are scared to try it.

Let’s step back and really look at skills and becoming “good” at something.

Did you ever realize how most things – or I should say everything – in life is a learned behavior – even the simplest tasks?   If you have kids, do you remember teaching them how to do something as “simple” as using a fork to eat or how to use the potty?  Remember learning how to drive?  Remember learning the alphabet?

It’s pretty easy to say you can’t do something because you’re not good at it.   For many things in life, not being “good at” something may be fine.  Maybe it’s not that important to you to implement into your life.  However, sometimes not being “good at” something can hold you back from a position at work or from participating in an activity you could or would enjoy.

There’s nothing more important than taking the first step to learn “how to”.  So, let’s get started and set a plan to become “good at” it.

  • First, with the wonder of Google, get the Google on and learn what you need to do to accomplish whatever the “not good at” is.
  • Then, make a sheet with a list of what you need to do to become “good at” it. Do you need lessons?  Do you need to read things? Do you need a class?
  • Make sure to put the list on PAPER so you can see what you need to do, as well as put a due DATE to accomplish each part of the list so you stay on track and actually do it.

It’s easy to say you’re finally going to do something.  Most times we’ll just never “get to” it, but getting started and using a system like the above will help with the commitment to actually get started.

It also may help with scheduling the learning, tasks, lessons, etc. into your calendar to keep you going and accomplishing your goals.  Accountability is the key here.

And, when you get discouraged or decide there’s no time, remember the commitment behind accomplishing this “thing”. For example, remember the Olympic athletes.  While they make things look “easy”, think of the hours and the sacrifice and the commitment they made to achieve their accomplishments.  Nothing worth having is achieved in one day. Things take time, commitment, and mostly practice, practice, practice.

From personal experience, I know I can achieve anything I set my mind to accomplish.  It’s our own personal decision to make the choice (always the word choice for everything in our day and our lives) to move forward to learn a skill. And, the results are always rewarding.

Everything we do is a learned behavior and a choice… even something we think should be simple, like how to have a nice day.

Like Walt Disney said, “If You Can Dream It, You Can Do It”.

Just imagine the possibilities.

After all, it is time to enjoy life. It is Time to Play.

Love, Doreen

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Doreen Guma, MA, FACHE, CPC, CLC is a board certified healthcare executive, a certified professional life coach, the founder of the Time to Play Foundation, a 501c3 not for profit corporation inspiring everyone to enjoy life and author of If I Knew Then What I Know Now, Our Quest for Quality of Life.  The concept behind time to Play and the Time to Play Foundation was absolutely created out of LOVE. Please see http://www.timetoplay.com/ for more information.

Photo Credit:  https://uptitude.wordpress.com/2012/07/25/i-can-do-it/

Every Action We Take Provides a Reward or a Consequence

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So, it has taken 45 years for me to start figuring things out.  I guess that’s better than never.

I have always advocated being proactive.  During my corporate career one of my job functions was quality improvement.  That is what I base our business model on now.  For our company I have written a statement:  “Everything you do in your organization to achieve success requires identification of goals, analysis, strategy and planning”.   This I advocate for our clients, but, something I realize I never really implemented in my life.  I feel that I’ve mostly utilized the “shoot from the hip” philosophy, just being happy to get through each day.

Life a continuous learning process, and I have learned some things recently.  All brought about as I search for meaning in development of timetoplay.com and through talking to people.  My goal for the site?  How can it help the most amount of people have a quality of life.  I really am working on it.

Something new I’ve realized (although it is obvious) but didn’t really put into practical operation is every action we take provides a reward or a consequence.

Let’s think about this — both in business and in life.

In business, are you achieving?  If not, what actions are you taking?  Are you being proactive?  Have you evaluated the past to find out what can be improved?  Have you set goals?  Have you planned?  Again, what actions are you taking?  What will be the consequences or potential rewards of those actions?  If no action is taken and you go on with the same old, same old, what consequences will there be?  I can’t tell you how many people I’ve talked to that wound up not implementing changes to make their business work and wound up out of business.  It is sad.

In life are you happy?  If not, why?  Did you ever really stop to think what will make you happy?  Did you ever try to make a plan or set a goal to acquire what will make you happy?  What have I realized lately?  I have to make it happen.  I have to make the change.  I have to set the goal.  I cannot wait.  If I don’t make it happen, it is not going to happen.  One of my friends was unhappy in her marriage.  On the outside she had the perfect life.  A wonderful house, wonderful kids, etc.  But she wasn’t happy.  She is going through a divorce and she is so happy.  She is free.  She has found a man that loves her.  SHE made it happen. 

In things like relationships, lateness, job satisfaction, weight loss, exercise, procrastination, behavior (being crabby), etc.  . . . the list is endless. . .  Every action (or no action) we take provides a reward or a consequence.  What changes need to be implemented.  What actions do/should you take?  What is the reward?  What is the consequence of an action or no action.  No actions may provide no results.  Bad actions may provide bad consequences.

Let’s take those good actions.  Proactive actions.  Let’s get that reward.