Update from a recovering boring-a-holic

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Woo Hoo!  What a weekend. 

I actually didn’t work over last weekend.  Believe that?  Here’s the recap: 

The wine and cheese on Friday was lovely — caught up with old friends I haven’t seen in forever.  I never made it to the bar to hear the band play that evening as it wound up being late after the first function (I can’t even believe I had two fun things to do on one night!!!).

On Saturday we attended the Special Olympics Polar Plunge.  What an excellent event!  So many people had such big hearts to raise money for these athletes.  Did you know it costs Special Olympics $400 to train each one?  Then, off to coffee with another old friend I hadn’t seen in months.   

Sunday was a bit cold, but also rewarding, as we participated in the Teddy Bear run with our Red Knight’s motorcycle club.  Smiles for children for the holidays!!!  And, then to a Thanksgiving Dinner with another group of friends.

So many charities, so many people with big hearts.  And, who would ever think you can have a bunch of fun while helping so many people (I did — I do it all the time — but it’s great to share this thought).  If you want to go out, why not make it a combined event with helping people.  If everyone chipped in a dollar. . . what a better world this could be.

Thanksgiving is Thursday, and I’ll be looking for some excitement for this weekend, too.  Once you get a taste, fun is kinda great . . .

What is it that people want to see in the news?

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Is there something wrong with ethics or with what people want to see in the news?  Or with the news producers for entertaining stories that, perhaps, shouldn’t get attention.

So, what do we have this week?  A preacher who says you shouldn’t use Facebook because it can cause infidelity, but this man previously had a “three-some” with his wife and a young male from his congregation.  I participated in a Facebook conversation about this over the weekend where people had comments ranging from offering the man forgiveness because we are all sinners, to people who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones.  My issue is how much attention should this be given in the news in the first place.

And, how about the “adult actress”, the new politically correct way to say “porn star”, who is suing Charlie Sheen.  Was it because he didn’t pay her for her services for the evening?  That was implied this morning during her interview on a news broadcast.  What really happened in that room?  First, no one will really know the truth, I’m sure.  Second, is it the general public’s business?  This woman is now a celebrity.  How ridiculous.  She’ll probably wind up with a multi-million dollar movie deal. 

How can we celebrate this type of lack of ethics, lack of moral character, and inappropriate behavior?  What is it we’re really looking at here, or looking to see?  I guess it started many years ago with gossip magazines like the National Enquirer and paparazzi where the celebrity scoop was showcased and people were seen at their worst times. 

Do we want to see celebrities fail?  Do we need to feel superior?  Do we need to think we are better than they are?  Or are these celebrities just people who make bad decisions sometimes like many of us do.  Maybe we need to see imperfections so we don’t feel like they are better then us.  But letting people, like the “adult actress” be in the spotlight just can’t be good.  And, you know how things go if you ever read The Tipping Point — more stories like this are sure to follow.

So. . . back to the original question.  What is it that people want to see in the news?  It is sad to know this is it.

Weekend plans for a recovering Boring-A-Holic

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So, it’s Friday.  People are supposed to have weekend plans on Fridays, right?

I had gotten an invitation for Friday night for a wine and cheese party.  A get-together with old friends.  My husband is going to a retirement party and I’m going to be alone.   I said I probably wouldn’t go.  He’s making me.  After all, I’m supposed to have fun and talk to people.

After that, a friend who has a band is playing in a local bar.  I don’t go to bars.  Ever.  I’m supposed to go out, so I’m going to pop in and listen to him play.  By myself.  Something I’ve never done.

A friend invited me to coffee Saturday morning.  And, on Sunday, we’re supposed to go on a teddy bear run motorcycle ride.  A little cold out, but that should be fun, and rewarding, because the teddy bears are given to children.  On Sunday afternoon we’re going to our cousin’s for an adult only (no kids) Thanksgiving dinner.  More conversation and friendship.

This is kind of amazing.  I rarely have anything nice on my schedule.  My normal weekend is mostly spent at my desk at work, then food shopping, cleaning, and just being tired.  No play.  No fun.  And, on Mondays, I drag myself into the office exhausted because I’ve had no break.  Maybe this upcoming Monday will  be better — at least I’ll have something to talk about “around the water cooler“!

So, where could all these activities come from?  Maybe someone, somewhere, knows I’m trying to become un-boring.   That’s great, because planning fun stuff when I know I should be doing work stuff is difficult.

The weekend is here with the promise of being different from the others.

Time to play.

What should be here? Is this blog boring?

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So, we create stuff.  We look at it.  We reevaluate.  We had a discussion in my office that this blog is boring.  That it’s too pensive.  That it’s not fun.  And, I certainly don’t want it to be a rehash of the same old thing.  I thought taking profound words and extracting the deeper meaning was kinda cool.  But apparently it’s not.

So — what should be here?  What should I write about?  What is my  mission?  A quest for quality of life.  This journey started approximately 5 short months ago when I realized I was going through each day without having any fun.  Working, chores, exhaustion.  Add to that the fact that I’m really not a fun person — all business, no pleasure — which is another challenge that I have to overcome.

Guess what?  It’s not easy to change.  I’m in the rut.  I try.  I say, “I should go to the gym”. Why?  Because I like to go to the gym.  But I don’t.  I’m too tired.  Or  I have to work, or go to a meeting, or pick up a kid.

I should have more fun.  But I don’t.  Why?  Something gets in the way. But the real problem is I don’t know how to.

However, I’m trying.  At least I’m noticing that I’m thinking of trying even though I’m not actually doing.  You know the saying, you can’t teach an old dog new tricks.  I’m an old dog. My birthday is in 2 weeks, and I’ll be 45.  Kinda scary.  Especially when I know I want to “play”.

But, isn’t thinking about doing something kind of a first step?

Every day is a challenge.  But I promise to get there.  I realize that you do have to work at something to have a change.

So, back to the question — what should be here.  Should this be about my personal journey?  Perhaps.  Or perhaps it should be about my journey intertwined with some amazing people I meet along the way that have had a similar epiphany.  I kind of like that better.  I take pleasure in seeing someone fulfill a dream or accomplish something.

We’ll just have to tackle this, together, one day at a time.

TimetoPlay.com Thought of the Day: Our destiny is shaped by our thoughts and our actions. We cannot direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails.

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Positive thinking.  That is something that people advocate.  It has been suggested through books like the Secret that implementing positive thinking can bring on the universe’s power to change a person’s destiny. 

Positive thinking is hard.  Every day, life experiences can bring you down. 

Today’s www.timetoplay.com thought of the day suggests picking yourself up, dusting yourself off, and moving forward.  Evaluating a situation and making a POSITIVE decision or change to facilitate a better way of life.  That’s the mission of www.timetoplay.com.  How can we go through each day without taking a few minutes to enjoy ourselves? 

Go to www.timetoplay.com and take the “Pledge to Play” — just start by setting aside 10 minutes a day to do something you love.  I’ve been working on doing this.  It’s not easy.  But, as today’s thought advocates, I will work on adjusting the sails.

Timetoplay.com Thought of the Day: Work like you don't need the money, love like you've never been hurt, and dance like nobody is watching! – Mark Twain

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Work like you don’t need the money, love like you’ve never been hurt, and dance like nobody is watching! – Mark Twain

Hmmm.  What does this say?  Love life.  Love what you do.  Be happy.

Is this easy in today’s society?  Not so much.  Negativity abounds in the news.  Financial pressures keep people tied to jobs they hate.  Obligations keep you prisoner, competing for the little time each day holds.

Reevaluation is key.  It is the goal of www.timetoplay.com to encourage people to find a better way of life.  We all search.  We just need to start somewhere.

Timetoplay.com is looking for contributors and content to help people achieve a quality of life.

So, what to do?  www.timetoplay.com does not expect a miracle.  Start with a “pledge to play” — we ask that you take 10 minutes a day to do something you love.  10 minutes.  Maybe that’s doable.  Is today the day?

It is almost that time again…

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It is 4:00 pm- do you know where you are going after work? Come one people we can make it one more hour! Usually this tends to be the longest hour of day but lets all pull together and make the best of it!

I just posted all the Time to Play press releases that have recently been sent out to the media. Our Toys-for-Tots fundraiser is our most important release so far. Every child should be able to open a brand new toy this holiday season. This release was featured on the Madison Square Garden website as well. Please help get the word out. 30% of every “I Helped the Kids Play” t-shirt will go to the NYC Toys-for-Tots Chapter. For more information go to www.timetoplay.com

an apple a day helps you play!

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The major premise behind my website, www.timetoplay.com, is that to enjoy the spare time we all find in a day we need to be health conscious. I try to incorporate as much educational resources for my website visitors so they can understand the importance of maintaining a healthy lifestyle is in order to get the most out of life.

Who has the stamina or is in the mood to enjoy a beautiful, invigorating hike after a Double Quarter Pounder with bacon & cheese with a side of fries and an apple fritter? Personally, a meal like that would keep me weighted down on my couch for a week (not including a trip to the bathroom!).

Isn’t it ironic that apple season falls right before flu season? It is the best time of year on Long Island to go out east and pick bushels of apples to bring home. An apple a day will keep the flu shot away!

I try very hard to keep myself and my family on the path of healthy daily habits. I won’t deny there are many temptations, like the pizza place around the corner from my office. Oh the cheesy, greasy, garlic-y GREATNESS. Every once and awhile I will of course treat myself to a slice for lunch but usually I balance it with an apple. A crunchy, juicy, shiny, tart, beautiful apple!

My point is that we cannot starve ourselves of the little pleasures in life. Whether that be a great slice of pizza or a short walk on the beach when we have a pile of laundry to do. The balance of life always allows some time for the little things we truly enjoy.

You can always take that short walk on the beach with your slice of pizza and kill two birds with one stone 😉

-Dor

something to ponder…

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Time to play tip of the day: “If you want your life to be a magnificent story, then begin by realizing that you are the author and everyday you have the opportunity to write a new page!” – Mark Houlahan

Isn’t that the beauty of waking up to a new day, everyday? On Monday you could have spilled coffee on your white shirt driving to work, was late for a conference meeting, got a lashing from your boss, forgot your wallet at home and couldn’t get something for lunch, sat in traffic to come home to a pipe burst. But on Tuesday it is a brand new day to start all over again!

Visit my website to read my past “Tip of the Day” at my website www.timetoplay.com

Don’t forget to take time in your day to play,

Dor

I WANT MY WEEKENDS BACK!

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I am so tired. And not just today, everyday. I wake up at 5am most mornings in the dark. I try to go to the gym just to give myself that little oompf throughout the day. I come home to shower, get the kids off to school, and then off to the office until at least 6pm (but it is usually later). Typically I work on weekends just to either get a head start on a project or to finish one. I want my weekends back and I want them now.

Back in the day didn’t the Almighty give us a day of rest? For what? So I can make lists of things I need to do on Monday.

Why do the days go so fast? It is already November! I still cannot get over the fact that summer has been over for 3 months. What happened? During the warmer months my husband and I would venture down to our boat as a way to escape and relax. Yet, I was never without my laptop or the blackberry. I cannot neglect my obligations and my responsibilities. But when is it time for me and only me?

Why is it so hard for all of us to step away from work, work, and more work?

Let’s all ban together and take back our weekends!

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