Sober and Happy Holidays!


sober holidays   The Holidays can be a challenging time for millions of people recovering from alcohol and drug addictions. People, places and things around holiday festivities can be triggers for relapse. 

Here are some tips you may consider that may be helpful for you.

  • Find new ways to celebrate! Host a party with your friends in recovery. Plan some fun recipes with non-alcoholic drinks and delicious foods.
  • Stay connected and share your triggers with someone close; you’re not alone-pick up the phone! 
  • Set boundaries with your friends and family members. Share where your head is at, and plan ahead together for family gatherings.
  • Watch for certain foods that may have alcohol-just the taste can be a trigger at times. Learn to say “No” in away that is comfortable for you.
  • Give yourself a little extra self care. Take some quiet time and work on an attitude of gratitude.
  • Smile-it’s definitely contagious!
  • Get involved in helping others; it takes us out of our own head at times. Help the family with whatever needs to get done.
  • Leave your judgement at the door, and don’t take things personally. Be proud of yourself and your accomplishments!
  • Focus on positive people and things. Be good to you! Then you can be there for others.
  • Dress nice, feel good, share hugs, learn something new, teach someone something, stay true to you!



In Love With Being in Love?


Romantic couple sitting on a sofa in a loving embrace laughing as they hold up a red paper heart for Valentines day

Are you in love with being in love? Well, to some extent, we all are. Being in love is one of the greatest joys of life. Let’s look a little deeper into this question; are you in love with the idea of being in love or do you want to be truly in love with a particular individual who will be your future partner? This is a shift that I work on with many of my coaching clients and workshop participants.

One of the questions that I frequently ask clients is, “What are the traits and values that are most important to you in a potential partner?” We call these your “Must-Have Traits.” Some answers that I often here are variations of: I want someone who will dance with me in the moonlight, who will walk with me on the beach, or who will cuddle with me on the couch. Now, of course, those are all great experiences and again, many of us desire that in our lives. But we want to get to the root of the love and ask ourselves, “Why do I want to dance in the moonlight with this person?” “What are his/her unique qualities and values that cause me to want to express that kind of affection?” Furthermore, “Why does he/she want to dance, walk, and cuddle with me?” “What are my unique characteristics that cause him/her to want to express that kind of affection?”

If we are not clearly in touch with the answers to those questions, then the romance is very likely to fizzle. If what is bonding us together is our love of being in love, then what we want most does not have the foundation to make it last. So, let’s formulate a well thought out vision, and let’s look for a particular person with the values, traits, and qualities that are most important to us. Then, let’s fall in love with a real person who possesses those characteristics, not with an abstract idea. As we slowly cultivate deep love with this person, then the dances and the walks and the cuddling can be authentic and lasting, way beyond the shallow fluff of romance in the media which leads us to be limited by our love of being in love.

Is Positivity Contagious?



Unquestionably, Undeniably, Palpably, Transparently, Emphatically -”YES!”

I love to spread and receive positive energy equally! My salvation has always been my keen ability to attract positive people into my life! Most recently, with Doreen Guma, founder of Time to Play. We both realized we share passions based on helping others channel the best versions of themselves. I go where I get good feelings. This allows me to teach, learn, share and grow every day of my life!

Another recent experience of positive contagion occurred just last week, and the three weeks prior. I score standardized tests for New York State each year. I usually meet a few nice people. This year I was at a table with seven incredible woman! We all connected strongly on so many different levels; intellectually, spiritually, and socially. Most of us worked 8-11 hour days scoring hundreds of essays and math equations for three weeks. We were so eager to help one another and share lots of traditions, habits and successful tools that we acquired over the years. We all brought treats to share everyday. We talked about having reunions and staying in touch. Our ages fluctuated with a thirty year span. Some retired teachers; others currently working. We tried to figure out what made this bond between us so strong. In the end, we decided it was our hearts that all synergized on some common level. I can’t wait to get together with them! This is uncanny, but I truly just received a group text from them as I’m writing this!! I haven’t heard from them in days! “Wow!”

As a special education teacher, field coach and addiction counselor, positivity has always been my strongest tool. I’m able to convey my confidence and concern for my students and clients through my own body posture; greeting and smiling at the onset of my classes and sessions. My chalkboard always read “Happy Monday! Tuesday etc.” with a happy face. I greet everyone at the door with the same verbal antidote. My smile, along with steady eye contact, meshed with my own enthusiasm; allows me to evoke interest in others. In return, I usually receive long, lingering smiles, and enthused, attentive students and clients. Warm gestures can turn boring or frustrating interactions into fun, progressive scenarios. My classes and sessions would culminate with me at the door telling each and everyone leaving to “Shine On!” I know this positivity was contagious because my students would shout out to me when they passed me in the corridors, or run into me in public places: “Happy whatever day it is!” or “Shine On, Mrs. G!”.

A physical example of positive energy contagion that I experienced first hand, was last year in a hot yoga practice. When I shared my frustration about mastering a few  poses with my instructor, she suggested that instead of placing my mat in the corner, that I should try positioning it more in the center of the room, so that I could pick up on others’ energy. Low and behold, my postures improved from that day on. I have learned to gravitate to those I want to mimic.

I can observe these aspects of physical results from energy contagion while watching my 15 year old son play baseball, basketball and football over the past ten years. When there was a positive, enthused coach at the helm, the boys banned together with a higher percentage of enthusiasm, teamwork and wins.

I remember hearing about a Global Consciousness Project at a Louise Hay Convention in Tampa. One of the science authors- either Greg Braden or Bruce Lipton spoke about coherent consciousness on the morning of Sept. 11th. Researches from Princeton University looked at a period beginning 10 minutes after American Airlines Flight 11 crashed into the North Tower at 8:46 a.m., and ending four hours afterward. To visualize the data, they plotted the cumulative deviation of a chi-square test.There was a proven fluctuation deviation throughout the moments of the five major events, during which ever-increasing numbers of people around the world were watching the news in stunned disbelief. It was calculated that the odds of this happening by chance was 35 to one. Another interesting peculiarity in the data included one of those measures starting 4-5 hours before the first plane hit. This eluded to the possibility that humans possess not just a collective consciousness, but also some degree of precognition. This data calls for us to reconsider the relationship between the mind, the heart and the physical world.

I remember the amount of camaraderie that existed among people everywhere in the world for years that followed the devastation. This was another example of positive contagion with the massive amounts of helpful hearts involved in the recovery process.

Starting each day with a gratitude list, prayers to be the best version of myself; along with prayers for others, allows me to channel positive energy to embrace a new day. I ask my higher power to place someone in my path that I can help or inspire. I read my Louise Hay Calendar affirmation. I repeat it out loud ten times. I read positive books, poems and material for twenty minutes. My favorite authors include Louise Hay, Dr. Wayne Dyer, Doreen Virtue, Deepak Chopra, Greg Braden, Anthony Robbins and Joel Olsteen- just to name a few. I take a Hot Bikram Yoga class or do a rushed cardio session depending on my schedule.

I use my positive energy in all facets of my life. It helps my media sales tremendously.

It was a blessing when I owned a restaurant with hosting, public relations and staffing.

I remember telling Doreen Guma that I always wanted to start a “Happy Hotline”. She told me that I can experience this by hosting and co-hosting Time to Play’s “Empower Half Hour” which I enjoy doing very much.

My life is best described as the ‘highest of highs,’ and the ‘lowest of lows.’ It wasn’t always easy. When times get dark or challenging, and really, everyday- I always surround myself with people that are positive and support my dreams. I give the same in return. What a great “Pandemic!!”





How to Eliminate Disappointment and Heartbreak

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mendingheart“He cheated on me. I’ve been through anger and grief. Now I am feeling intense pain, like a knife being twisted in my heart.” ~Anonymous Facebook Post

A broken heart is probably one of the most painful experiences this life has to offer. Think about it. How many times have you experienced a broken heart? How many times has someone disappointed you? I know if I had a dollar for every heartbreak and disappointment I’ve felt, I’d be able to finance a cruise around the world…well, maybe a cruise halfway around the world.

Yes, we’ve all experienced countless disappointments and heartbreaks throughout our lives, and if you keep living, it’s guaranteed you’ll experience even more—unless…

Contrary to popular belief, it is possible to eliminate all heartbreak and disappointment. The secret is not well-known and hardly ever practiced…unless you choose to prioritize happiness.

Before a heart can be broken or a person can be disappointed, there is a learned behavior we all engage in that needs to be unlearned and eliminated. I’m sorry to say this behavior is considered “normal” but in reality it’s not. It is the reason for all disappointment and heartbreak.

Are you ready for the answer? Are you ready to eliminate heartbreak and disappointment in your life forever? I know I was.

People with broken hearts and disappoints have one thing in common: They have expectations of other people. Expectations of how someone else is supposed to act, feel, think, speak, and behave. If you never want to experience a broken heart, eliminate all expectations from your relationships…and, quite frankly, from your daily life as well.

Now, I’m not pretending that this is an easy practice. In fact, it’s taken me years to eliminate expectations from my own life. What I can promise you is that once you begin eliminating expectations, you will be happier. Think about it. Unless you have expectations, there is no reason to be disappointed. It took years, but today I don’t expect anyone to do or be anything other than themselves.

An added bonus: Make it a daily practice to eliminate all expectations from your life and you will be happier. I promise.

"You're as Beautiful as You Feel"

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Carol KingI’m still exhilarated from experiencing “Beautiful,” the Carole King Musical on Broadway yesterday. The incredible music that magically touched my soul is not the only aspect of the performance which is causing me to feel this way.  A powerful factor in my excitement is that her story completely brings to life the exact concept that I encourage my coaching clients with every day.

This show brings us Carole’s answer to the empowering question that I often pose to my clients: “What did you feel held back from in your previous relationship that you can now accomplish?”

The amazing musical genius, Carole King, lacked the confidence to write the lyrics and perform the incredible music she composed during the younger part of her life. She depended upon her husband’s talent for lyrics, was blinded by her love and admiration for him, and didn’t expand her self-confidence.

When Carole went through the painful, disappointing, and frightening demise of her marriage, she was vulnerable and weak, wondering how she could possibly endure personally or professionally. Somehow, she intuitively found her inner wisdom and her courage which led her to compose, write the lyrics, and sing for her platinum Grammy winning album, Tapestry, and to make her mark on the world forever as an iconic female rock star.

What did YOU lack the confidence to accomplish during your previous relationship? If you can identify that significant answer, challenge the beliefs that continue to hold you back, and break out of your comfort zone, you too can reach the stars that you were meant to reach. Your voice can be heard whether you sing or not, your talents can be recognized, and your gifts can be appreciated by all those who you share them with. Use the enormous power you possess to make it happen. Then, much like Carole King, you will create a new life that is truly “Beautiful.” How would that feel?

Conformance and Judgment

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Bruce Jenner

On the day after Bruce Jenner’s interview with Diane Sawyer, thoughts come to mind.

Not just about what feelings Bruce has had to live with throughout her life, but about conformance, judgment and labeling.

It’s really quite simple. I can sum it up in two words. “WHO SAYS”?

This simple term can be applied to pretty much anything. “WHO SAYS” anyone of us is doing the “right” thing, and who decides what is right and what is wrong? “WHO SAYS” how we should live, how we should act, how we should dress, or how we should behave?

WHO decides where we should work and what is acceptable?

WHO decides what is dangerous or what is not, what is good for us and what is not, what defines pretty and what defines ugly, or what is “smart” and what is “dumb”?

Hopefully you get the idea…

Perhaps the biggest point for my discussion here – and perhaps the most thought provoking: “WHO SAYS” and decides how we should be labeled?

I believe labeling is probably the worst and most destructive function we have in our entire society. Once you label someone or something it could create detrimental consequences.

Just look around.  We label everything and everyone.

We are and we become “these people” and “those people”.

WHO SAYS Bruce Jenner is any different than any one of us?

She is a human being with feelings and needs. Just because people don’t conform with “the social norm” does not make them “wrong”.

I have been doing a lot of research these past years as part of the Time to Play project in reference to what people need to achieve quality of life. I’ve recognized that once we label a person “depressed” or “no good” or “sick” or “dumb”, they live up to their labels.

I believe that once you label a person as “wrong” you put them at risk for self harm. In reference to Bruce Jenner and others that are “different”, did you know that the members of the LGBT community have one of the highest rates of suicidal ideation and self-harm? Do you care? Why do you think this is so?

Just imagine having feelings of being “different” (again, WHO SAYS who is “wrong” or who is “different”). Imagine trying to personally accept feelings of being “different” and deal with the potential judgment and prejudice that you will face as being “different”. Imagine how you will feel if society does not accept you. Imagine dealing with the reactions of family and friends.

Why do you think so many people hide so many things in their lives? Why do you think so many topics are “taboo”? Think of all the ramifications for a person who does not feel good about themselves and the self-destructive behaviors that can result.

What are we doing to our people – our loves ones – by creating an environment where people hide, resulting in potential harm to themselves and/or others?

It’s something to think about and something that we, together, can change. I commend Bruce for opening a much needed area for discussion, and, hopefully acceptance for many.

After all, WHO SAYS we can’t all live together in harmony and enjoy life?

It’s time to play. It’s time for all of us to enjoy our lives.


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Doreen Guma, MA, FACHE, CPC, CLC is the founder of the Time to Play Foundation, a 501c3 not for profit corporation inspiring everyone to enjoy life.  Please see for more information.

The "Stuff" They Did't Teach You About Finding A Fulfilling Career

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One of my favorite postings involves a picture of Albert Einstein with the caption “I didnt say half the stuff people said I did.” Whether he said it or not someone wisely observed that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting different results.

I’ve spent close to 40 years hiring people and unfortunately on more that one occasion having to fire people. Most of those people weren’t fired because they’d broken any rules, laws or policies. Most of them were terminated because they weren’t a good “fit” for the job to begin with. They only interest the job had was a wage and the wise sages and gurus of this world tell us money is a motivator for us for a maximum of 24 months. After that we cant get any deep spiritual meaning out of stocking shelves at 3:00 AM in the Big Box discount stores.

Oh, we follow the conventional wisdom on “how to find and attain meaningful employment.” The only really meaningful employment is the the employment that’s meaningful to you.

It seems like everyone around you is coming up with these uber jobs that create a real sense of fulfillment  and permanence and you are left scratching your head and posting resumes everywhere in heaven and earth hoping against hope that someone calls you.

And they don’t (I know, i know I began a sentence with a preposition.)

The reason? You don’t know what they know and they are not about to teach you.

Because you have chosen to be part of the amazing Time to Play community and because you want balance success and happiness in your life it means you believe you deserve success in your life, I am going to share 40 years of sitting on the “other side of the table.”  I’m going to share some tips and techniques that will help you get an edge.

Here is the good news: I’m not going to ramble on and on. I’m going to share a series of videos with you that I’ve recorded on YouTube about creating effective resumes, personal branding and preparing killer, knock em’ dead interviewing skills.

They are not the stuff we teach you, they are simply the stuff we use to choose people for those fulfilling and meaningful jobs.

The first video is on creating a killer resume – One that will get you interviews. The link is below:

If you have any questions or in sites feel free to email me at I’ll be more than happy to set aside some time to share my thoughts with you.

I hope you find some value

Who is the Patient’s Advocate?

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At a recent meeting of patient safety professionals a small group of nurses huddled around where I was sitting, and one began to share a story about how hard it is to advocate for patients.  She explained that a woman who was in labor was in the hospital and one of the nurse’s colleagues was taking care of her.  As her advocate, the nurse knew what the patient wanted – a normal delivery.  But events moved slowly and as the woman was not yet sufficiently dilated, the resident physician ordered medication to speed up her delivery.  The patient’s nurse knew this is not what the patient wanted; but the nurse “needed” to find the nurse manager who then needed to find the attending who would then go to the resident for authority to countermand the medication order.  By this time the mother was in labor, and as a result of the effort to hurry things along, was showing signs of complications — hemorrhage.

The nurses listening to the story were sympathetic to the mother as well as to the nurse who was there to advocate for the patient.  They expressed frustration about the chain of command they felt they had to follow in order to help this patient. This chain of command, they all agreed, was the problem.

But I disagreed with the nurses.  It was not about the resident giving the wrong order.  I asked the nurse why the patient wasn’t immediately consulted about speeding up delivery.  That’s where the delay was, I told them.  If she were truly advocating for the patient, the nurse would have told the resident, in front of the patient, that this is not what the patient had wanted. The nurse said that it would not have been appropriate to speak in front of the patient.  “Why,” I asked?

This is the culture change that is needed.  The family, I explained to her, would never have followed that procedure.  A loved one with this mother-to-be would have said “Stop: this is how we are going to do it, we will respect her wishes for a natural delivery.”  If this patient’s family member had trained through the PULSE of NY Family Centered Patient Advocacy program, he or she would not have been intimidated or caught off guard. They would know what patient-centered care is — and realize that this was not very patient-centered.

If you feel that your relative who is a patient is not being consulted, you have a right to stop the process and make sure the patient is in charge. This mother-to-be could have said that she didn’t care, they could do what they want; or she could have said, “I don’t want my labor induced – what are the other options?”  At any time the patient can ask a loved one or nurse to be involved, help make decisions… or not.  In this case, the nurses truly believed what they did was patient-centered even though the patient had no control of the situation.

That is where the culture of patient care needs to change.

Sign up for the PULSE of NY Family Centered Patient Advocacy Training – 8 hours of patient safety education and learning advocacy skills and communication.

Tuesday evening May 19 and Thursday May 21 from 5:30 PM – 9:30 PM

3601 Hempstead Tpke. Levittown.  Registration required by April 25, no walk-ins.

Cost: $125.00 per person or come with a team of three people and pay $75.00 each.  That’s a savings of $50.00 per person.  (Each participant must register separately.)  Visit to register

Self Imposed Limitations

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Follow your dreams

I’ve been saying for years now, “Learn what you need to know so you can enjoy life”, and although I’ve been a huge advocate for learning, I’ve also been struggling with this HUGE concept.

Throughout my journey developing the idea behind the Time to Play concept, truly believing that everyone deserves to enjoy life, I have encountered obstacles. I have met many people who I relied on and became incredibly disappointed in.  I “waited” for things to happen, for promises that didn’t materialize.  I became amazingly frustrated, and had given up numerous times.  Sound familiar?

“Can’t” even sometimes snuck itself in there…

I’m sure many of you have had similar experiences.

Thankfully, I have been provided with amazing friends and teachers like Rebecca L. Norrington.  She has slipped in words of wisdom and empowerment to me at some of my most critical moments.  She may not even realize the power behind what she gives.  One important thing I’ve learned from her is that no one can make you “feel” a certain way… only YOU can make you feel.  Implementing this mindset takes practice. Trust me.

So, here’s the scoop on today’s revelation that I would like to share.  Hopefully I won’t lose you as I try to explain it.  Please stay with me…

I would like to share something I have realized in order to keep myself on track, and I hope it can also help you to avoid discouragement.  I have realized that ideas and a change in our thinking, no matter how ideas and concepts are presented, or how many times you hear something, are not necessarily immediate. This goes for anything… including things like “tips” for healthy eating or “pointers” or ideas for happiness or for success.  Anyone can “tell” us stuff, but it’s up to us to “get it”.

Remember how hard it may have been for us to learn how to solve a math problem?  How we tried, maybe we even had gone for extra help?  And then you “got it”, and it was easier to complete the assignments?  Like that.   I believe this is how it is for many of us to adopt a new way.  It sometimes may take time, even years, for ideas and concepts to evolve in order for us to see things more clearly and to understand.  Research shows it takes 21 days to adopt a new habit.  I think that it takes a lot longer – it takes until we are ready to adopt a different way of thinking.

Today I have realized something that I’ve known all along, but a concept that I really “got” this morning – the idea behind self imposed limitations.  I have recognized that it takes years to unlearn what we have decided to believe about ourselves.  The lack of self confidence, that we don’t belong, the belief we cannot “be” or “do”, which result in our creation of frustration and unhappiness in our lives.  I wrote about these concepts in our book, “If I Knew Then What I Know Now”, ( writing in chapter 2 about my belief that we are “tortured souls” that live in self-imposed prisons (chapter 2).  There’s a sample read here, where you can read the beginning of this idea.

Today those concepts have become even clearer to me.  I challenge you to look around and see how many people accept life in that manner.

Today, with a belief that is even stronger than ever, I know each of us has amazing potential.  I also know that potential is just inside every one of us, waiting for the time when we are ready to use it.

How many of us believe we can’t do something?  That we can’t achieve success in an endeavor?  That we don’t deserve ”IT”? That we are destined to be sick, poor, or suffer hardships?  That we’re “unlucky”?

I have been thinking of these questions, as well, since the podcast John Jurkiewicz, another of our Time to Play team, and I did last Wednesday.  Part of the discussion was how many of us fight our success gene.  I believe that’s totally true. I believe part of our fighting is involuntary because we act as we were taught. (If you would like, you can listen to the podcast here.)

Today, even though I’ve heard it a million times, I had an “AHA” moment.  I know that we each have, within us, the power to achieve.  But we achieve what we believe.

And, I know that it takes a long time for us to unlearn what we believe and to see things differently.

Ask yourself what you prefer to believe — that the sky is the limit or that you are here to suffer through life?

Every day is a new and beautiful opportunity.

What is your dream?

Perhaps today is YOUR day to seize it… to start on your path of making your dreams happen.

Perhaps it’s your time to stop looking back and stop thinking “can’t”.

“Talk is cheap”, someone once said.  “Someday I’m going to… “ is another famous phrase.

Do it. Don’t give up. Keep your eye on your dream.

It’s time to enjoy YOUR life.  It’s time to play.

Love, Doreen

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Doreen Guma, MA, FACHE, CPC, CLC is a board certified healthcare executive working in healthcare for the past 28 years. She has seen the “sick and sad” and knows there has to be a better way.  She is also a certified professional life coach and the founder of Time to Play, a website dedicated to life enjoyment.  The Time to Play Foundation is a 501c3 not for profit corporation with the mission and purpose to enrich the lives of others through programs, public awareness outreach activities, events and learning opportunities that further the concept of ENJOYING LIFE!  Short version … inspiring EVERYONE to enjoy life.  Contact us at 631-331-2675 or email |

Nobody Wins — BUT, We all CAN

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When things happen in my own personal experience, it sets a fertile environment for me to start thinking.  I have a habit of analyzing everything, probably a result of working in the field of quality improvement for many years. I believe that everything has the potential to be better, and even if we think something is perfect, there are still opportunities for improvement.

Here’s a situation that I experienced last week.  I’ve been thinking about how to put my thoughts into words since then.

A few days ago I had the experience of going to court for the sentencing of a criminal case.  I had never been to the courts before, and I was truly saddened by the experience.  The whole courthouse scene was one of despair, from the line of people waiting to get through security, to the stressed out faces attending the many proceedings.

As you may know, I am part of the motorcycle community, recently appointed as a board member of a motorcycle safety, education and advocacy group.  I truly believe in the power of the people, and not only went to support an injured motorcyclist and his family, but to be a visible reminder of the need to protect motorcyclists from irresponsible motorists.

In this particular case there was a woman who critically injured a man riding his motorcycle to work.  She had been in and out of jail most of her adult life and an addict since she was 12 years old. In our book, “If I Knew Then What I Know Now” (, I discussed the adoption of self-destructive behavior to hide from pain in our lives.  There are many types of self-destructive behavior aside from alcohol or substance abuse, including eating disorders, over shopping, self-harm, or even “proving” you are good enough, the one I am most familiar with. Chapter 2 in our book is entitled “We Are All Tortured Souls”, where this was discussed a little more.

From the limited information provided at the sentencing, it was alluded to that she had started using drugs to hide her emotional pain from her father’s physical abuse.  Now, at 27 years old, having been out of jail 3 days prior to the accident, she chose to drive a motor vehicle while under the influence of drugs.  In a matter of minutes she changed lives forever, causing irreversible pain and suffering to a lovely man who had been down the block from his destination at the time of the accident, as well as significant financial hardship to his family.  Further, she left the courthouse on her way back to jail, this time for a matter of years.

In this situation, and so many others in our lives, the choices we make create an end result where nobody wins.

Think about that.

How many situations do you hear about that cause people unnecessary pain or hardships?

Unfortunately, watching the news, we hear daily of people who makes the choice to lie, cheat or injure another in some manner by making a wrong choice.  Something I have learned is that we truly know right from wrong, perhaps even if this knowledge is deep down inside.  Perhaps we chose our behavior stemmed from anger or fear.  No matter what, when we make the wrong choice, we sometimes cannot take back the outcome resulting from the action we chose to complete.

I wrote in our book, “History will repeat itself if we let it” a number of times.  This sentiment can pertain to so many instances, unfortunately.  We continue to hear many world problems without having solutions to stop things — the same things — from occurring over and over.  Sometimes the outcomes result from choices that had stemmed from our irresponsibility in performing an act we know we should not be doing, and sometimes the outcomes result from greed.  There are so many things I can write here as examples…

But, instead of actions to rid our society from these social ills, we have new laws and legislation to protect people from a potential injury or hardship — even though there is a root cause for everything.

Apparently just creating new laws against “wrong doings” is not working.  We can look at legislation for illegal hand guns, texting / drunk driving, illegal drugs, and more… the stuff keeps happening.  We also continue to hear stories of people taking financial advantage of others, even politicians that do so.  Again, we all know right from wrong.

Perhaps it is time to take responsibility and make good choices.  Simple things like not drinking and driving or texting and driving.  Things that we hear about and just continue to do anyway, it seems.  Perhaps we need to consider the feelings of others and make better choices before there are irreversible ramifications of our actions.

Something else I had written about in the book was waiting for “them” to fix things that are problems.  Guess what — there is no “them”. There is “us”.

Change will result when WE start working together to make things change.  People Helping People.  Collaboration = Success.  It’s Time to Enjoy Life.

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Doreen Guma, MA, FACHE, CPC, CLC is the founder of the Time to Play Foundation, a 501c3 corporation inspiring everyone to enjoy life. Email her at