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Reprinted from: published by Jonathan Davis on Friday July 17th, 2015

The following article supports the Time to Play Foundation’s concept behind the development of the Enjoy Life Community(r) program.  The research proves that connection, community and cooperation – what we at the Time to Play Foundation have been working so hard to achieve with the Enjoy Life Community(r) model – will help people to create and empower entire communities to create a better life.

By following the principles of the Enjoy Life Community® program, the Time to Play Foundation can empower communities to focus on the strengths, positive and possibilities in their communities to develop solutions and bridge communication barriers in communities, decrease social isolation that may affect an individual’s decision to utilize a negative self-destructive behavior, and create opportunities that will benefit the whole community through a unique application of positive psychology.  See a brief overview at: and call 631-331-2675 to learn more.

Do Stronger Human Connections Immunize Us Against Emotional Distress?

Right now an exciting new perspective on addiction is emerging. Johann Harri, author of Chasing The Scream, recently captured widespread public interest with his Ted talk Everything You Know About Addiction Is Wrong, where he concluded with this powerful statement:

The opposite of addiction is not sobriety. The opposite of addiction is connection. – Johann Harri

These sentiments are augmented by a growing number of experts, including addiction specialist Dr Gabor Maté, who cites ’emotional loss and trauma’ as the core of addiction. Compare this ’emotional loss’ to Johan Harri’s idea about lack of connection and it is clear they’re talking about a similar emotional condition.

Limbic Resonance

If connection is the opposite of addiction, then an examination of the neuroscience of human connection is in order. Published in 2000, A General Theory Of Love is a collaboration between three professors of psychiatry at the University of California in San Francisco. A General Theory Of Love reveals that humans require social connection for optimal brain development, and that babies cared for in a loving environment are psychological and neurologically ‘immunised’ by love. When things get difficult in adult life, the neural wiring developed from a love-filled childhood leads to increased emotional resilience in adult life. Conversely, those who grow up in an environment where loving care is unstable or absent are less likely to be resilient in the face of emotional distress.

How does this relate to addiction? Gabor Maté observes an extremely high rate of childhood trauma in the addicts he works with and trauma is the extreme opposite of growing up in a consistently safe and loving environment. He asserts that it is extremely common for people with addictions to have a reduced capacity for dealing with emotional distress, hence an increased risk of drug-dependence.

Humans require social connection“Humans require social connection”

How Our Ability To Connect Is Impaired By Trauma

Trauma is well-known to cause interruption to healthy neural wiring, in both the developing and mature brain. A deeper issue here is that people who have suffered trauma, particularly children, can be left with an underlying sense that the world is no longer safe, or that people can no longer be trusted. This erosion (or complete destruction) of a sense of trust, that our family, community and society will keep us safe, results in isolation – leading to the very lack of connection Johann Harri suggests is the opposite of addiction. People who use drugs compulsively do so to avoid the pain of past trauma and to replace the absence of connection in their life.

Social Solutions To Addiction

The solution to the problem of addiction on a societal level is both simple and fairly easy to implement. If a person is born into a life that is lacking in love and support on a family level, or if due to some other trauma they have become isolated and suffer from addiction, there must be a cultural response to make sure that person knows that they are valued by their society (even if they don’t feel valued by their family). Portugal has demonstrated this with a 50% drop in addiction thanks to programs that are specifically designed to re-create connection between the addict and their community.

Human connection is crucial in in the immediate task of clearing trauma“Human connection is crucial in in the immediate task of clearing trauma”

Personal Solutions To Addiction

“Ask not why the addiction, but why the pain.”
– Gabor Maté

Recreating bonds is essential in the long term, but human connection is crucial in in the immediate task of clearing trauma. When a person decides to finally face and feel the pain that they may have been avoiding for years or decades, the first steps cannot be done alone.

“You have to be with that pain, but you have to have support.”
– Gabor Maté

This support is essentially the reintroduction of the care and support which is so important in creating the neural structure of emotional-resilience in early life. By doing so, we begin to replace what was missing, and thanks to the revelations of neuroplasticity we now know that you can in fact teach an old dog new tricks; neural rewiring is possible in adult life. Though it is essential for addicts to feel supported in order to finally face and feel the pain they have been trying to avoid, this is ultimately an inner journey that must be taken by the individual.

“Whatever you do, don’t try and escape from your pain, but be with it. Because the attempt to escape from pain creates more pain.”
The Tibetan Book Of Living And Dying

The Roots Of Healing

When we are young, our parents care for us until we are able to do it for ourselves, after all they won’t be there to do it for us forever. Perhaps, on an emotional level this is also true: our parents love us so that we may learn to do it for ourselves. The programs in Portugal have demonstrated that addicts do remarkably well when they feel valued by their community. Whether they realise it or not, the Portuguese are creating positive limbic modelling by valuing the addicts so they can learn to value themselves. When people are there to provide loving support for an addict wishing to face the emotional pain they carry, they are loving them and caring for them until they can learn do love themselves. With this in mind, perhaps the neural-wiring of emotional resilience developed through the loving reflection of another, once fully developed, could simply be called self-love.


Johann Hari: Everything you think you know about addiction is wrong



Improved Business Customer Satisfaction

If you’ve recently found yourself wondering, “How can I improve my business’s customer service,” this is a positive thought! As a business owner or manager, if you haven’t been thinking about this, it’s certainly time to start. Improving your business’s customer service encourages a positive company culture and provides your brand with the opportunity to capture and retain high-quality customers that, in return, become brand ambassadors when they have a great experience. This article shares a few simple tips and adjustments that you can make to improve customer service at your business.

Empower Your Employees

In a customer service-based industry, it’s important that your employees feel confident and proud of the knowledge they have about your brand and products. If an employee does not have the proper training, enabling them to confidently engage with and support the customer in need, they will not perform to their highest ability.

When employees don’t have high confidence, it can result in a negative or non-supportive message that is relayed to the customer. Training programs, team-building ventures, and success coaching are all affordable ways to give your employees the knowledge and confidence they need to succeed and handle customer service with care. 

Allow Your Customers to Get to Know You

Decision makers are faced with more options than ever before. It’s likely that you are competing against other companies that offer the same or similar services/products. Increasingly, customers are buying online.

Creating opportunities for your potential customers to have real life interaction, or at a least one-on-one conversation, with someone in your company can open the door for the building of trust and brand loyalty. Simply put, people like to feel important. When customers get to know employees, conversions and brand awareness increase.

Create a Community for Feedback

Although the task of creating an “online community” may fall under the role of the social media or community manager, it is an important asset that impacts the entirety of your company. According to Webbiquity, “84% of CEOs and VPs say they use social media to help make purchasing decisions.” The creation and management of an online community not only enables you to inform a large number of users, but it also creates a space for honest feedback from prospects and customers.

Yes, from time to time you may get negative feedback or a bad review. With process in place to appropriately and proactively respond to these comments, however, your business’s customer service will be improved by “humanizing” your brand; you’ll gain the trust of others when they see that their experience and opinion matter. A negative situation, in most cases, can be converted into a positive client experience, making your customer service team look and feel great.

Improving your business’s customer service activity may seem like an overwhelming or wasteful task. We can assure you this is far from true. There are a vast number of digital and physical outlets for customers to potentially tarnish your brand, and it’s more important than ever before to have a community management team in place.


Forget About Road Rage..Here Comes Desk Rage

You have heard about road rage. Now, its time to face desk rage, as stress problems in the office boil over and cause abusive and violent behavior. According to a recent REUTERS article, workplace violence is on the rise. And to find the reason why, one need look no further than the world economy. Job cutbacks, home foreclosures and high food and fuel prices are putting a strain on families. Unfortunately, that strain is not staying in the home. It’s traveling to work with many employees right into the office.

Desk rage is a sign of stress: on-the-job anger that increasingly is triggered by the pressures and tensions of the workplace. Furthermore, electronic devices like laptops, PDAs, mobile phones, and e-mail have created an ever-widening gap between the amount of information people are expected to keep up with and the amount they can reasonably process, and this adds on to the stress. No one is spared, including doctors, as in the case of a cardiac surgeon who was sued by his staff for ‘workplace bullying’.

Anger in the workplace – employees who are grumpy, cynical, hostile, short-tempered or insulting – may lead to extreme abusive behavior, as seen in this video:


So what can you do if you are put in a situation with a boss or a colleague who’s ranting and raving at you? Here are some pointers:

1. Do not react. Count to 10, take a few deep breaths and tell yourself the rage is about him, not you. Note your own emotion but do not let it control you. So, keep cool, calm and collected.

2. Listen and keep listening till he’s finished, before you talk.

3. Seek to understand the situation and provide empathy. There is a difference between understanding and agreeing.

4. If that doesn’t work, you can quote Harry Truman, “If you can’t stand the heat, get out of the kitchen!”.

Refreshing Sweet Treat Replacements for Unhealthy Desserts

The science is very, very clear. Sugar in excess in any form creates havoc for human health. While liquid sugar—in the form of sodas—seems to be the most offensive culprit, any refined sugar at high amounts can cause problems.

The USDA recommends limiting daily added sugar intake to 6 teaspoons (25g) for women and 9 (37.5g) for men, or 10% from total calories. But, while this is a smart guideline to follow, at the end of the day who would want to live their whole life without consuming tasty sweet treats? Desserts are used to celebrate, to uplift mood, and to combine ingredients to create diverse textures and a tantalizing experience for our taste buds.


Even though our world is populated with many low quality sweet treats in supermarkets, cafes, and speciality shops, the good news is how a new wave of products—and consequently ideas to take into your kitchen—are beginning to grow in popularity.

Most of these treats utilize higher quality sugars like maple syrup, raw honey, or coconut palm sugar, which all retain micronutrients and can cause less blood sugar disruption—especially when combined with higher quality fiber and fats that slow down the absorption of the sugar. In addition, these sweets swap out low quality refined vegetable oils—safflower, sunflower, soy, canola—for more healthy fats like coconut oil.

Finally, their ingredients are clean, simple, and often contain an added dose of antioxidant rich foods like spirulina, turmeric, almonds, or goji berries.


So while it is always important to be mindful of sugar consumption, when it is time to celebrate choose the highest quality and create a win/win for your health and for your taste buds.

If money is no object, check out these amazing sweet treats at your local health food retailer: Hail Merry Miracle Tarts & Coconut Macaroons and Amazing Chocolate Truffles (avoid the ones sweetened with agave).

Recipes for these can be found online

  1. Organic strawberries dipped in 100% non-sweetened fair-trade chocolate.
  2. Local grassfed yogurt and fresh berries sprinkled with cinnamon, cardamom, ginger and a maple syrup drizzle.
  3. Chocolate date balls
  4. Chocolate Avocado Pudding
  5. Peach Crisp (use coconut sugar instead of cane)

Danny Arguetty, M.A., E-RYT 500, is a yoga teacher trainer, nutrition and health counselor, wellness educator, and lover of the environment. He is an advocate of high quality nutritious foods and non-toxic sustainable living. Arguetty is also the author of Nourishing the Teacher: Inquiries, Contemplations & Insights on the Path of Yoga and The 6 Qualities of Consciousness: Practical Insights from the Tantric Tradition of Yoga.

Photo by Miss C.J., CC

No Excuses, All you Need is One Minute


A single minute of exercise each day is linked to better bone health in women, new research shows.

Using data from UK Biobank, the researchers found that women who on average did 60-120 seconds of high-intensity, weight-bearing activity per day had 4% better health than those who did less than a minute.

“We don’t yet know whether it’s better to accumulate this small amount of in bits throughout each day or all at once, and also whether a slightly longer bout of exercise on one or two days per week is just as good as 1-2 minutes a day,” said lead author Dr Victoria Stiles, of the University of Exeter.

“But there’s a clear link between this kind of high-intensity, weight-bearing exercise and better bone health in women.

“Because this is a cross-sectional study – which assesses data taken from a subset of the population at a particular point in time – we can’t be sure whether the high-intensity physical activity led to better bone health, or whether those with better bone health do more of this exercise.

“However, it seems likely that just 1-2 minutes of running a day is good for bone health.”

The researchers looked at data on more than 2,500 women, and compared activity levels (measured by wrist-worn monitors) with bone health (measured by an ultrasound scan of heel bone).

As well as finding 4% better bone health among who did one to two minutes of high-intensity, weight-bearing exercise, they found 6% better bone health among those who did more than two minutes a day.

Dr Stiles said data from UK Biobank – taken from monitors worn for a week – was broken down into single seconds to understand how people go about their daily activities.

“We wanted to make every second count in our analysis, because short snippets of high-intensity activity are more beneficial to bone health than longer, continuous periods,” she said.

“We were careful not to ignore short bursts of activity throughout the day.”

As a suggestion for anyone interested in increasing their day-to-day levels of activity, Dr Stiles said: “The UK’s National Osteoporosis Society recommends increasing your walking first.

“Further on, we would suggest adding a few running steps to the walk, a bit like you might if you were running to catch a bus.”

Good bone health has multiple benefits, including a reduced risk of osteoporosis and fractures in older age.


BE YOUR OWN ADVOCATE by Janice Suarez Morales



Be your own advocate!

Did you know that 50% of media headlines about medical studies are completely wrong? That many of these headlines don’t accurately match the conclusions of the studies they cover? That’s from a review published in the New England Journal of Medicine! Here’s a review

For example USA Today published an article stating coconut oil isn’t healthy.

Here’s the article

There’s no study showing that coconut oil causes heart disease. Not one. The whole case against coconut oil is based on a theory that been proven wrong. It’s the diet-heart hypothesis.

The AHA recommends eating no more than 6% of saturated fat as part of total daily calories for people who need lower cholesterol.

Saturated fat raises LDL cholesterol. LDL cholesterol causes heart disease. Anything that raises LDL cholesterol is bad. Only problem is that the data does not support this theory!

The USA Today article was based on this review in the link bellow

( by the American Heart Association (AHA). The AHA has been at the front line of bad advice for decades. They told us to eat very low fat, low cholesterol diets and to eat tons of starchy carbs. Besides the fact that AHA gets huge funding from cereal makers that put the AHA seal of approval on sugary cereals because they are “fat free” despite containing 75 percent sugar. Except now a huge amount of research has proved that idea to be dead wrong. Fact is their recommendations have killed MILLIONS of people from heart disease and diabetes. That’s why the very conservative 2015 USDA Dietary Guidelines removed any upper limits on dietary fat and eliminated any restrictions on dietary cholesterol. ( Click on the link for more information )

In fact, after decades of telling us to avoid eggs and shrimp they said, “Cholesterol is not a nutrient of concern for overconsumption.”

The populations studied that had eaten saturated fats also were coincidentally smokers, didn’t exercise and ate unhealthy diets. The people who actually ate well, exercised and didn’t smoke (lived healthier lifestyles) also didn’t eat saturated fats because they were told not to. Studies prove that it was the well-rounded healthy habits that saved them, not less saturated fats. This is exactly why multiple recent studies have shown no link between saturated fat and heart disease.

This next study was done over 40 years ago, BUT was not published because the results contradicted the current belief that saturated fat was “bad” and that LDL cholesterol led to heart disease.

In this study they fed 9,000 people in mental hospitals butter, saturated fats or corn oil (polyunsaturated vegetable oil, which the AHA report says we should eat more of). Those who ate the corn oil had more heart attacks and deaths, despite lowering their LDL cholesterol. Yes this is real. In fact, for every 30-point drop in LDL the risk of heart attack went up 22%. Not only that a recent review from researchers of all the science on big bad butter are looking at 6.5 million patients  for years of butter eating, found that butter eaters had no increased risk of heart disease, but they did have DECREASED risk of type 2 diabetes! Butter = lower risk of type 2 diabetes. And if you still need to be convinced, here’s a link to (reviews of all the best and relevant research) showing no link between saturated fat and heart disease.

The whole idea that LDL cholesterol causes heart disease is the reason we have a multi-billion dollar satin industry.  One study of over 130,000 people who had heart attacks over 5 years showed that 75% had normal LDL and 50% had optimal LDL cholesterol. But only 10% had normal HDL or the protective cholesterol. And you know what raises HDL? Saturated fat. And coconut oil raises it the most of any saturated fat. And what lowers it? A low-fat, high-starch, and high-sugar diet. We need cholesterol and saturated fat for the health of every cell membrane, your brain cells, your sex hormones and more. Cholesterol is not the cause of heart disease, it is the band-aid that tries to repair the arteries when damage occurs from a low-fat, high-starch, high sugar diet. This causes pre-diabetes and inflammation from a processed food diet, environmental toxins, a bad gut from a low fiber, processed diet or anything that causes inflammation.

Before we getting off the topics of saturated fats, here’s one BIG warning. They ARE a problem if you eat them in the context of a high-sugar, high-starch, processed foods diet. It’s what some people call sweet fat. No bagels and butter. No donuts or French fries. Stick with butter and broccoli!


If you are interested in the corruption of the AHA, its funding is supported by the Pharma industry, industrial food giants (including sugary cereal makers) and industrial vegetable oil manufacturers, then read this recent blog on

With all this being said do not believe everything you hear, DO YOUR RESEARCH because what we don’t know can indeed hurt us!



Credits for this article go out to Mark Hyman, MD

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How To Slow Down Your Life & Enjoy the Ride Right Now

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Do you tend to always worry, rather than embracing the moment? If so, it means you are thinking about the future, rather than sitting in awe of how lucky you are to be alive right now.

No matter how lovely the present circumstances might be, you habitually live psychically 30 minutes — or 30 days, or 30 years — into the future

Are we doomed to this torrent of stress which distracts us from enjoying our life? We don’t have to be.

An older man came up to me after a speech I’d delivered, grabbed my hand, and said he wished he’d heard me speak decades ago. After I asked why, he said that when he was eating lunch on break or dinner with his family, he was always thinking about what he had to do after the meal, which represented his daily life. “At the age of 97,” he said, “I’ve officially lived my life 30 minutes ahead of whatever I was doing.”

Here are three things to remember:

• Don’t cry before you are hurt. Don’t put up your umbrella until it rains. Worry restricts your ability to think and act effectively, and it forces your mindset into fear and anxiety about something that may never occur. Laughter is the opposite. When you laugh, you’re living almost completely in the moment, and it’s one of the best feelings you can have. So, laugh more often.

• No one can ruin your day without your permission. As much as we cannot control in life – our genes, our past and what has led up to today – there is much control we may take upon ourselves. Today, for example, we can realize that life picks on everyone, which is helpful when our daily life becomes difficult, so we don’t need to take it personally. When we do take misfortune personally, we tend to obsess, giving our days a legacy of distress.

• Cure your destination disease. Live mostly for today, less for tomorrow, and almost never about yesterday. How? You might have to repeatedly remind yourself that yesterday is gone forever, yet we perpetually have to deal with now, so why not live it? And what if tomorrow never occurs? There is a difference between working toward the future, which is inherently enjoyable in the light of hope, and living in an unrealistic future that remains perpetually unknowable. If tomorrow never comes, would you be satisfied with the way today ended?

It is not how you start in life or how you finish. The true joy of life is in the trip, so enjoy the ride!

Steve Gilliland ( is a member of the Speaker Hall of Fame,

It’s Time for a Solution

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For close to the past 2 years, I have been trying so hard to get people to listen…. to shift their thinking from the focus on “the problems” to that of the positive and the possibilities. For the past two years I have felt frustration and experienced having doors “slammed” in my face or people telling me I “can’t” make things change or how people wouldn’t participate if they “didn’t have a problem”.

BUT, I’ve persisted because I believe in the power of the idea of the Enjoy Life Community® model and the focus on life enjoyment for our communities and for our people.


Because I know that EVERY day someone in our community wakes up in despair or experiencing feelings of loneliness or hopelessness or helplessness. I know that EVERY day, in our Country, on average, there are 121 suicides. I know that EVERY day, people wake up with depression. I know that EVERY day, in our Country, 120 people die from overdoses with, I believe, the blame for using drugs being inappropriately directed to drug dealers or physician prescribers.

What we are doing is evidently not working. In 2009 23.5 million (of 306.8 million) persons aged 12 or older needed treatment for an illicit drug or alcohol abuse problem . Through discussions with our elected officials and research, it is shown that alcohol or drug rehabilitation may only be effective 10 – 30% of the time.

We have the power to shift and to create an environment to: Decrease social isolation, share the good works being performed in our communities, encourage participation in our community endeavors, and to shift our current focus and redirect our energies from problems to solutions and the goal to enjoy life.

This is the mission and vision of the Time to Play Foundation – The Foundation offers a positive reminder and reinforcement that every day should feel like “play” and provides resources in a PROACTIVE manner to decrease the development of, or utilization of, self-destructive behaviors; and, to, instead, shift the focus to enjoy life and to spark a progressive and proactive momentum in our communities to do so.

Got Crime in your community? Sure. Got drug issues in your community? Sure. BUT…. How about if we shift our efforts to concentrate on a SOLUTION vs. trying to control a negative situation or outcome. The war on drugs has been waging since Richard Nixon declared drugs as public enemy number one in the United States. Since it was coined as such, more than $1 Trillion has been spent in this “war”.

Guess what – it “ain’t” working, no matter how many billions have been spent. Here’s a thought… what if we shift to focus on getting people to love life – to feel wanted and part of their community? Demand drives supply. I believe that, if people loved their life, they would never use drugs or other self-destructive behaviors in the first place.

Ask yourself: Do you love your life? With the visible and proactive solution provided by the Enjoy Life Community® program of the Time to Play Foundation, you will.

It’s time to encourage participation and provide greater opportunities to our students and our people through partnerships and community collaboration. It’s time to strengthen our businesses. It’s time to change the discussion of feeling sad or lonely or depressed from embarrassing and taboo. It’s time to stop the silent suffering.

It’s time to bridge the communication barriers in our communities in order to showcase opportunities available. It’s time to work together to create solutions so our people can be happy, healthy, have money and a work life balance.

It’s time to Enjoy Life. It’s Time to Play.


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The Time to Play Foundation, Inc. is a not for profit 501c3 corporation with the mission and purpose to enrich the lives of others through programs, public awareness outreach activities, events and learning opportunities that further the concept of enjoying life. – See more

CHECKING ANTIOXIDENT LEVELS- Part IV of the How to Reduce Your 1 in 3 Chance of Cancer, by Melissa Stockman

Antioxidants fight free radicals.  Different antioxidants perform different jobs.   For example, vitamin C (an antioxidant) stops the chain reactions while vitamin E breaks the chain reactions.  Studies have showed that Vitamin E  lowers  risk of CAD & increases life span.  Since different antioxidants help differently, it’s important to ingest a wide variety of antioxidants.  Different types of antioxidants include:  carotenoids (yellow, orange or red pigments that color vegetables  ie carrots), polyphenols,  flavonoids…    
 It’s also important to get a baseline antioxidant level & periodic rechecks.  There  is now a 30 second non-invasive way to check your antioxidant level through the palm of your hand.  This test uses Ramen spectroscopy- wave lengths of light bounce off the antioxidants in your hand & back to a computer.  Therefore, there is no need for a needle to obtain blood or even a urine sample.   The computer then calculates the wave length into a numeric value,  gives you an instant value & will email you the results as well.  Testing this way is more accurate than a urine test;  Just because the antioxidants are in your urine, doesn’t mean that you are absorbing them.  It just means that you are excreted them.  This test is also more accurate than a blood test as the blood test will only check for a specific vitamin, not this important group of antioxidants called carotenoids.  Just because a vitamin is in your blood or urine, does NOT mean that it’s absorbed into the tissue.  Many doctors rarely order blood tests to check vitamin levels.  If they do order, it’s usually just for 1 or 2 vitamins, which is not a good overall indicator of your overall antioxidant status.  (You may have 1 vitamin level high because you only take that 1 vitamin.)  Thus, the blood test is not a good indicator of overall antioxidant levels.  This test is actually measuring it at the tissue level.  Once you have this number, you can make life style changes to help raise it.  You can now track your progress or lack there of.  Before this test, there was no real accurate way to see if your lifestyle modifications were impacting your antioxidant level.  Now you can!  This test may also give you insight to see how weight & smoking affect your score (antioxidant level).   Since many vitamins are excreted, totally unabsorbed by the body, this test may provide insight as to if you are truly absorbing your vitamins or not.  Most practices do not offer this state of the art test yet. 
As  a Board Certified Adult & Pediatric Nurse Practitioner with my own testing device, you may want to attend our  Health Programs on the third Tuesday of every month. where  I can check levels.  Or you may contact me directly to arrange a private consult.
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